What I could not have known that day in the midst of all the fear and confusion was just how ok everything would be. How much love & support I would have. I could not have known I'd have an entire community of amazing people in the PD world that would soon comfort me and touch my life in ways I could never put to words. What I could not have known was that life with a diagnosis and treatment would be improved more than I could have ever imagined. That many of my issues would be controlled so well I could get back to living life again. What I could not have known was that despite the moments of fear that I still have about the future, that wonderful things were still going to present themselves in my life. What I could not have known that day was that this wasn't the end of the world, nor the end of the road for me; but simply a new chapter, a new road to travel and a process to figure out what was next.
In 365 days I have become about as much of an expert as possible about PD and a lot has changed. 365 days later I can honestly say that there is just as much good and just as much joy if not more in my life than there was before I heard those six scary words. I wish I had known that would happen on that fearful day, but I guess that's just not the way life works.
I just returned from a conference in Halifax which was fantastic. It was put on by the Parkinson's Society Maritime Region and provided a wealth of knowledge and a room with 200 other people who either have PD or help care for someone with PD. And you know what stood out the most about this room full of people with this disease as I looked around? For the majority of them, likely about 95% in fact; if you were to walk into that room you would never know they had PD, particularly if you weren't 'looking for signs'. This was very encouraging to see and experience not to mention comforting to have so many others to share experiences with and understand each other. A lady by the name of Eleanor Beaton who is a professional women's life coach opened the conference. She spoke about human nature and the stages you have to go through to deal with a catalytic event in your life. (Parkinson's diagnosis, divorce, loss etc...) and many things she spoke of touched home with me. But the thing that struck me the most was when she said "Pain is a reality, suffering is optional". How human nature is to try and make pain go away faster, it's uncomfortable and it hurts and nobody wants to feel it. However it's necessary to feel pain from a catalytic event in order to go through a process of reformation and in turn emerge on the other side. However to suffer is completely optional. To dwell on the circumstances and allow yourself to be miserable about it is a choice you are making that causes you to suffer. I cannot agree more. In the last year I have struggled with the changes forced on my life because of Parkinsons. However, I also think I've worked really hard to deal with the pain my diagnosis brought, as well as the pain from loss of career, loss of friendship and many other emotional pains on top of the physical ones. However through that process I have also worked hard at a refusal to allow myself to suffer. I have made the decision to face my future head on and remain optimistic. To do what I need to do to live well with PD. It's not always easy and I still feel the pain at times but suffering won't make anything better. So it's as simple as that... I choose not to suffer...
So, as this year comes to a close I'm grateful for the opportunities to advocate for PD and to raise awareness that PD is not just for older people. I'm honored that I was able to be a guest blogger with the Michael J Fox Foundation, share my story of equine therapy with the Canadian Parkinson's Society and connect with other people with PD all over the world through this blog. And now, I'm onto the next chapter of my new life with Parkinson's. I am volunteering my time with the executive committee of the PEI Chapter of the PD Society and I have just been elected as a member of the board of directors for the PD Society Maritime Region. I'm also working with the PD Society of Canada as am Ambassador with their National Advocacy Network. All things that I can do at my own pace and ability. My loss of identity I have suffered with from having to give up my career has lessoned. I now have hope that I will be able to volunteer my past professional experience to have both an impact in the PD community as well as feel like I'm still a contributing member to society despite the fact that I'm unable to work. This is a very empowering and freeing feeling and I look forward to these opportunities that have presented themselves to me. Had I chosen to suffer through this experience and like many other people with YOPD remained in the Parkinson's closet, I would not be able to do these things. Had I chosen to suffer I have no doubt I would be in a very poor emotional state. So for all these reasons I am grateful and I have found joy in this past year and look forward to finding more as time goes on.
Previous post 'Parkinson's Disease, not just for old people': http://natashachronicles.blogspot.ca/2015/02/parkinsons-diseasenot-just-for-old.html
Parkinson's Society Maritime Region supports:
Parkinson's Society of Canada:
Michael J Fox Foundation offers webinars, guest bloggers and a wealth of knowledge on a daily basis:
Parkinson's Disease Foundation also has online learning tools & great information:
And last but not least. The World Parkinson Coalition has amazing information and ressources. If you are able to attend the 2016 WPC conference in Portland Oregon I know it's going to be amazing!
There are many other avenue's, other bloggers that you can laugh and cry with. So many opportunities to connect with others. If you'd like more ideas, other blogger addresses, information or simply someone to chat with please email me through this site.
You CAN live well with Parkinson's Disease whether you are 37 with small children like myself or much older.